Questions and Answers

What is coaching?	Why would someone think that he needs a coach?
What is the coaching relationship like?	What is the client's job?
What does a coach do?	What is the coach's job?
Who has power in the coaching relationship?	What areas do you specialize in?
What is business coaching?	Are these areas exclusive or inclusive?
What is personal life coaching?	What are some of the expected results of personal life coaching?
What is the structure of coaching?	How can I find out more about personal life coaching?
How does the relationship begin?

Coaching is the action of helping you find your way and of traveling with you. It is an alliance between two equal persons with the intention of meeting the needs of the client.

The coaching relationship is profoundly creative, supportive, and powerful. It is different between each coach and client; and each relationship is created and defined by the client.

A good coach puts the focus on you. He listens to you. He is aware of who you really are, of what your goals and values are. He holds you accountable for what you say you want to do in your life. He is completely curious about you. He will help you clarify your goals and create steps to going after them. He is totally committed to what you want to do with your life and he will absolutely tell you the truth, especially where you are strong and where you let yourself down.

A good coach has no negative judgments about you. He is totally supportive of you in your thoughts, words, and all of your feelings. And he will be a witness to you in creating the life you have always wanted to have, filled with power and purpose.

In the coaching relationship, the power is in the relationship itself. It is a third sphere, the coach and client being the first two spheres. The relationship is designed by the client, so you can say that the client has the power even from the beginning of the relationship.

Business coaching is the process of helping a client to set goals, either realistic or fantastic, and to create strategies for achieving these goals. It is also a process of looking at the assets of the client and at the values he brings to the creative process.

Personal life coaching is similar to business coaching and also to athletic coaching. Many business people have coaches. We just never see the coaches in the news. All athletes have coaches and we could say that great success in sports is really not possible without strong, positive coaching.

In personal life coaching, you have a coach at your side through the important processes of your life. He is there when you set your goals, and he is there through your daily routine in developing and implementing your strategies. He is there to celebrate your wins and successes, and he is there to share your failures with compassion and understanding. He will remind you that a man with many successes in life also has lots of failures.

Coaching may be done in person or on the phone. One of our biggest challenges in life today is finding the time to do what is important to us. Coaching on the phone is the most efficient means of getting the most out of the experience. Sessions are usually had on a weekly basis for half an hour to forty-five minutes.

The relationship usually begins with a phone conversation about what you are looking for. And then it is a good idea to do an introductory session for a half-hour. That is usually enough for you to decide if you would like to have a life coach. When you decide that you would like to begin, a long interview is done before the coaching sessions begin.

We live in a busy, complicated, and stressful world. We often have the experience that our lives are out of balance. We are doing things we don't want to do and we aren't doing the things we want to do. People come to coaching to restore the balance in their lives.

The client's job is to show up for the session, usually on the phone. He might talk about the week and what his goal is for the session. He might report his wins and challenges of the week, along with areas to be addressed.

The coach's job is to be present to what the client is thinking, saying, and feeling. He will also be aware of goals and commitments from previous sessions. The image of dancing is often used to describe the relationship between the client and the coach. We dance together.

I specialize in working with men, especially gay or queer men. The areas of our lives that most interest me are spirituality, eroticism, and power.

I am aware that life is a whole. When we look at one area, such as spirituality, it affects the whole of our lives, such as work and money. When we look at eroticism and make an inquiry into our values and goals, it effects other areas such as spirituality and recreation. Finding a root area of imbalance in our lives will uncover the same imbalance in our whole life. Empowering one area of our lives, undoubtedly puts power in the whole of our lives.

Some expected results of personal life coaching are a feeling of power in our lives, the experience of balance in the whole of our lives, and the gift of fulfillment, that we are living a life of purpose that is in harmony with our deepest-felt dreams. We may discover a whole-life.

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